Awkward conversations overheard…

Yesterday at Dave’s work..

Dave’s Boss: So Dave you working over Christmas with us, we all are?
Dave: No man, I am going to NYC with my wife.
Dave’s Boss: Must be nice, all these flooring guys with the big money who can just vacation all the time and jet around the world.
Dave: Actually, I can’t afford it at all, but I am going cause my son died last Christmas Eve and I want to escape reality for a while and try to make peace with that.
Dave’s Boss: Holy crap Dave, I am sorry, I had no idea. wow!

As per[info]darlingmiette icon. Dead Babies…Not Just In Jokes Anymore. If it’s so damn common then why the hell are people always taken aback so much when they are told.


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β€œLife is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” β€” Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on November 18, 2008, in Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.

  1. Reminds me of The Most Awkward Conversation I have ever had… after my brother in law got married, I walked up to my sister in law to tell her how glad I was to have her in the family, all that nice stuff. Then I decided to throw in the ol’ “So, when are you gonna have kids, eh?” cheesy line, because that’s what everybody said to me at MY wedding.
    And she looked suddenly horribly sad, and told me she had had her tubes tied. GOOD GOD THE AWKWARD. I made her sad on her wedding day 😦 I still feel awful!

  2. I loved Dave’s response.
    And besides- why is it jetsetting to want to go away over Xmas anyways?

  3. Wow. I was totally expecting a horrible response from Boss Guy, but that was actually pretty decent of him. I love the honest, from-the-gut reactions like that, like “Holy shit, I’m so sorry!!!” with horrified, sad looks on their faces.
    Why is that so damn hard to get from people? Isn’t that how they’d react if we said our mother, our brother, or our grandfather died? Why do dead babies elicit moments of awkward and inappropriate speech 😦
    But yeah. I know what you mean about the surprised reactions. I actualy read an article the other day about stillbirth (not an academic article) that said stillbirth is not that common these days. Um, wtf? 1 in 150 is not common? Ugh.

    • P.S. Dave’s response was PERFECT. Seriously.

      • I know…this is were his straight for the throat no holds barred nature comes in handy as much as it annoys me sometimes haha.
        He has never been one to beat around the bush.

    • Seriously WTF it’s more common then SIDS and Autism and we talk about that in good company all the freaking time. Whatever, I think the taboo is what makes it even more horrific for us parent’s no one ever tells us our babies could just die at term. No one seems to know and yet its so common. I have met 8 other mom’s who lost full term babies at the same freaking hospital as me after me..tell me again that it’s not common.

    • dude, i just read that it’s 1 in 115. hmm. don’t know if that’s US or worldwide.
      i bet the US has a higher rate than the world (or developed countries, whatevs)

      • Well, statistics will vary greatly depending what kind of study was conducted and who was surveyed. A lot of stillbirths do go undocumented, though, so it does warrant assuming that most numbers are lower than reality.
        I’ve seen ranges from 1 in 200 to 1 in 100.
        It’s horrifying 😦

      • I meant to say, most statistics will give you less of a chance than what is actually possible.
        My brain is dead.

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