The gift of a dead grandbaby and beautiful people.

I gave my mom lot’s of things for Christmas this year. I gave me a purse and a pashmina that I bought in NY. I gave her a book about a Grandmother dealing with the grief of stillbirth and I also made her this:


She loved it and she put it on her bedroom dresser.  I was so relieved, I sadly was afraid of how she would react. She
doesn’t talk about Evan that much and she often tell’s me my level of grief is unhealthy. I was so happy she loved it.

I knew she had said she was going to put a memoriam in the paper for Evan over christmas, but I guess I forgot about it. Anyhow
yesterday I was at my my Memere’s (French Grandmother) and I notice something on her fridge that caught my eye. When I realised what it was I teared up a little. My mom put this in the paper:

MAYNARD-In loving memory of Evan
Clements Maynard. December 24th, 2007

He was taken without any warning
His going left our hearts filled with pain
But though he has gone from
amongst us
In our hearts he will always remain.

Sadly missed by Nanny Leona and
Uncle Chris

And just to make my heart a little warmer still. I arrived home today to find a card from my Midwife It reads:

Dearest Jaime and Dave!

I am thinking of you a lot these days. It is hard for me to find words. I visited Evan’s grave in September on a sunny day. Yes, it is a beautiful spot to come to and remember him.
I wish you strength.
Know that I am with you in my thoughts. Feel free to write or call if you feel like it. Or come and visit and we can go for a walk on the beach again. 

Love to both you wonderful people. 


I have to say, it heals the heart a little bit more each time someone remembers and acknowledges Evan and his short life. We so often feel we are alone in his memorie.

About mommamaynard

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” — Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on January 4, 2009, in Uncategorized and tagged . Bookmark the permalink. 6 Comments.

  1. ((((((((((((((((((((((angels are love with wings)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  2. gorgeous. i am so glad that they maybe are starting to get it and know that memories bring healing. ❤

  3. That frame is beautiful. The memorial in the paper is beautiful. Its nice to know that people still think about our babies even after they are gone.

  4. I am glad your Mother liked your gift. It’s beautiful. And that’s very touching of what they did in the paper. I think most people don’t realize how little it takes to warm our hearts just by remembering our children.

  5. Aww..that is sooo sweet && beautiful!

  6. So beautiful and moving, all of these people remembering and honoring sweet Evan.
    The picture frame is so stunning, I am not surprised your mum loved it.

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