So…Dave asked me last night at random how I would feel about lending our new mom friend one of my breast pumps to use. I have 2 that have never been used except to help stimulate labor.

My immidate reaction was NO! not a chance. Why should someone else’s breastmilk get to go into my breastpumps before mine.

Then I decided, they were sitting in the basement’ still in the box, two of them, and so ok why now, I know her and trust her and her overall health so I decided to lend her one for as long as she need’s it, I won’t be needing it for at least 10 months right? Besides I have two. She has mastitis already due to an oversupply and her lactation nurse told her to pump. Her husband went out and bought her some crappy like Platex pump or something, and then ruined it while trying to sterilize it, melted the  leak seal or something, and was going to look into ordering a replacement part.

Not only did I talk myself into agreeing to this, I packed her up a care packed with the pump, my Advent Isis IQ, 4 extra bottles and a nursing boppy pillow ( I have two of those as well). I had Dave drop it to her today. I don’t like that another baby will be getting fed with it, but I know that is just my ego talking and it’s the right thing to do.

I am not that selfless and sweet though, I sent her my second favorite one, my other one is the Medala mini and I liked it better, it’s my way of still being a little bit selfish. πŸ™‚ I

On a side note, the reason I only wanted the single pumps was because I was expecting to be nursing full time and using the pump as a backup to build a back up supply. I had figured if I needed more I could rent the Pump in Style Professional from the hospital. Both these pumps were gifts given to me while pregnant with Evan.

About mommamaynard

β€œLife is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” β€” Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on January 28, 2009, in Uncategorized and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. 13 Comments.

  1. I think this action of being generous with Evan’s belongings is a very clear sign of how you are adapting to life after his death. I am trying to be empathetic at how torn you must be. Happy to be able to help someone else, so damn pissed off that the second hand stuff you’re handing out isn’t used second hand stuff.
    But I’m proud of you for how your actions show your selflessness. (And am even more proud for you being a little selfish and keeping the fav’s for you! beggars can’t be choosers!) Keep growing J, you’re heading in a healing direction!

    • Thanks.
      Emotionally-the last few days’ actually feel like a setback. I am just REALLY depressed, and I look depressed, my eyes are so squinty and little, and it’s not cause I have been crying, I haven’t, I just feel LOW. Hoping it’s just hormones and it’s not gonna be like this every month if it is PMS related, Geesh.

  2. And of course, my dear, I agree with the above comment. Very generous, and very hard ❀

  3. I kind of know how you feel. I was given a PIS a few weeks ago through a client of my midwives, so I’m in the process of selling my Medela Swing pumps 😦 They are going to good friends, but it’s still sad that Julia’s milk was the last to be in there, you know?
    Oh, totally random sidenote: why the hell is this woman PUMPING if she has mastitis from oversupply???? 1. Pumping will INCREASE her supply, 2. Mastitis gets better with antibiotics and with the baby’s draining the breast more efficiently than a pump. Tell Dave to take it over there with the suggestion to speak with a board-certified lactation consultant before the lactation nurse screws things up!!! /rant

    • That’s usually true, except that with forceful letdown/ oversupply (they usually go hand in hand, and the baby doesn’t want to nurse through the letdown) block pumping can help with oversupply (gosh darn it, I can NOT find the fucking link! Damn it. It was through breastfeeding on LJ, but they need to freaking update their memories!)
      Also, once one gets mastitis the baby might not be able to keep up in order to drain the milk ducts enough…
      Anyway, needing a pump b/c of mastitis is not as bad advice as you might think… although it can certainly be bad advice, if the pumping is done incorrectly!

      • That’s true – what you’ve said. I wasn’t as thorough in my response because I was just thrown by the “lactation nurse” reference. So much bad advice is given to women by people not even board-certified :/
        Hopefully I am wrong here!

      • Oh my gosh, yes. Seriously, lactation nurses make me want to SCREAM and get all STABBY STABBY!!!!!!!!!!! Although some of them are board certified, most are more like annoyingly uninformed medela reps.

      • The Lactation Nurses here that work for the Community Health are certified Lacatation Consultants. Halifax is a SUPER pro breastfeeding city. Thus I wasen’t concerned about the advice. I didn’t think

      • Oops. Consider it a weak visceral response based on the crappiness that is the US healthcare system πŸ˜›

      • It’s ok. I suppose I can look past that πŸ™‚ hahaha.

  4. ((hugs))
    It still was a very generous thing to do.

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