Evan and autopsies
We have been waiting over a year for Evan’s autopsy results. Over a year. We consented to this to try and get some inclination of an answer or direction to help apease future pregnancies. We did get our prelimanary results, which pointed to Post Term Fetal Demise and restricted blood flow to the baby, However, these results were very superficial and didn’t touch on so many other things. Plus they didn’t give me a report of any kind to take home with me, just a verbal walk through of the results.
Yesterday, while at our physician’s Dave asked again about the autopsy and she said she had requested information on it 3 times so far and hadn’t heard back. She told Dave we might not get anymore information, that maybe we won’t get a full autopsy report, just the prelimanary. When he told me this I flipped. I was told that if I consented to an autopsy I would get a report detailing everything including the condition of his organs and everything, every tiny little detail. This was especially important to me as I felt his death was related to medication, so I SPECIFICALLY asked them to check the condition of his liver and for traces of drugs. They all reassured me over and over I was wrong, so I just said humour me and prove me wrong then. When I asked at the prelimanary I was told there was nothing about his liver there. My midwife told me she had heard through the grapevine that they did not autopsy his liver because it was in poor condition and would not yield accurate results. Needless to say I was pissed, so we set out to find out why this is the case, if this is the case is this normal? what could it relate to ect..I like to be educated and not just take things on blind faith.
Anyhow, we have decided that rather then pittering around with this bullshit any furthur, this is retarded, we are going straight to the CEO of the IWK, whom we met with after our son’s delivery. She gave us her card and said to call her anytime and so now is as good a time as any. I want my son damn autopsy result, I want to make my own conclusions. I would not have consented otherwise.
This makes me so furious it’s unreal. Grrr! Why is this acceptable, why should a mother have to wait this long for results. Isen’t stillbirth horrible enough already.