Addition to yesterday’s shit list..
I forgot this one….
Here I will just cut and past it from my email so I don’t have to type it all out again.
A long time friend who is having a scheduled section on the 30th for her first child (He is bum down breach with his feet up over his head, and they were not able to turn him despite many attempts). Anyhow she is having a lot of anxiety because of the tragedies around her with baby’s and she was telling me about this girl who lost her baby to SIDS:
"A few months after you lost Evan, another friend of mine’s sister lost her little one. She was 3 days old and died of SIDS. Although the hospital could not say for sure, they wrote in the report that it may have been due to co-sleeping. It was awful!"
Well I LOST IT. Fucking lost it. Here is my reply:
"The co-sleeping thing is bullshit, pure and simple. People all over the world except north america co-sleep, in India and in South America ect..it’s norm to keep the baby in bed with you, it’s also norm to breastfeed, which super lowers the risk of SIDS. Mom’s keep their baby’s in bed with them so they can just roll over and breasfeed them without really waking up (eventually) or otherwise they do a side sleeper so baby is close by and easy to grab and feed. Although we have a crib, I have a bassinette/side sleeper I intended to and intend to use until at least 6ish months when the baby is strong enough to hold up his/her own head. That is my opinion of course. just saying that bottom line is, we all grew up in cribs are and were fine, but loads and loads and loads of baby’s grew up co-sleeping and also are fine. SIDS is random and unexplainable and they think it’s related to sleep apnea, in terms of the baby being deeply asleep and forgetting to breath. Beleive me I have researched the hell out of it cause I also know someone who’s baby died napping on the couch on it’s back, with no blankets over it, so doing everything right. She walked away 15 minutes to do dishes. It’s unfortunate that these things happen, but I would never blame the parents for co-sleeping. The baby lives crammed in your belly for 40 weeks, the big open crib, alone, away from you is scary to them, that is why they stop crying when you hold them. They like to feel you next to them. Seem’s common sense to me. "
Anyhow-Another girl I know who lost her baby to Stillbirth was told it was because she ate unpasturized feta while pregnant. WTF is wrong when we go blaming the parents for something as silly as that, when other babies are born healthy to crack addicted mothers. Like WTF.
I am Mrs. Livid these days. Everything is pissing me off. A Kit Kat commercial pissed me off last night for making junk food a happy family heart warming event. I partially blame the book I just finished for the food hatred hahaha.