A decade in passing.

Got this idea from several other’s reviewing that past decade. My life has changed sooo much as most people’s has.


  • I rang in the millenium in Fredericton, NB with friends and my long time boyfriend Jansen.
  • In May 2000 I graduated from University with a Bachelor of Psychology and English
  • 1 week after graduation I packed up my life with Jansen, boyfriend of 3 years and we moved to Toronto.
  • I went from living in a small University town to living on the 24th floor of a high rise at Young and Carlton, a major downtown Toronto intersection.
  • I worked in retail and had a generally unproductive rest of the year, getting aquainted with Toronto. 
  • I became aquainted with a formal praticing group of pagans and was ecstatic to meet others who shared my views. 
  • Met my now bestest friend in the world Sarah A. 


  • Started a diploma in Career and Work Counselling at George Brown College in Toronto
  • Continued living with Jansen at Young and Carlton
  • Worked part time in various retail roles while in school
  • In August 2001 Jansen broke up with me, I was a mess, unemployed with one semester of school before me, I had to move into a rental room that ended up being infested with flees. It took everything in my power to finish my classes, I was a mess.
  • Kept screwing around with Jansen for the rest of the year cause I was a sucker and couldn’t let go or was in denial
  • Finished my diploma classes in December 2001, moved home to NB for a month to clear my head.


  • Came back to Toronto, moved in with Jansen until I could figure out what I wanted to do
  • Decided I could not afford to do my last unpaid practicum and had to find a job instead, found a job as an Employment Counsellor with Youth at Risk
  • Found a place, a open concept studio loft at Queen and Bathurst and moved out of Jansen’s place
  • Found out Jansen was playing me and several other women all at once when another women called his place on valentines day and I answered the phone, this was the official last day of our nearly 6 year relationship. Then the details came flooding in, there were lots, it was hard but in retrospect, freeing.
  • Met Bryan in April, fell hard in love with this rebound, we spent everyday together basically for the rest of the year
  • Got a job at JVS Toronto a Rehabilitation Counsellor for persons with disabilities, which would come to be a long time employer and a new career direction.
  • Became a Neophyte of the Odyssian tradition of craft, which means I was officially of Priestess in Training.
  • Became the handmaiden for the Wiccan Church of Canada for a one year term, a long desired and lusted after honour.
  • Became very close and wonderful friends with Doug, the churches Summoner and my new partner in crime.


  • Continued working at JVS
  • Moved in with Bryan in January-Broke up with Bryan in September
  • Moved into my own place a basement apartment I hated in October
  • Spent alot of time with Dave, my best friend, he was so supportive and entertaining
  • Finished my term as handmaiden
  • Kissed Dave for the first time in early December 2003, the rest is history 🙂


  • Continued working at JVS
  • Moved to Cresent Town, a crappy neighborhood but a nice big bright apartment in my budget, also helping a friend stuck in a lease after his relationship fell apart.
  • Continued dating Dave and things were going wonderfully
  • Dave moved in with me when we decided we wanted to travel together in South America and this way we could save money


  • Continued working at JVS
  • Continued living with Dave
  • Went to Peru for one month in July
  • Got perfectly engaged on top of Machu Pichu at sunrise on the summer solstice to my best friend
  • Came home from South America and underwent a formal bethrothal ceremony, which links a couple who intends to marry together for a year a day to help them make sure marriage is truly what they desire.


  • Continued working at JVS
  • Spent most of the year planning our wedding
  • Got married in August 2006, ended up being the exact same day day Jansen from above got married, weird.
  • Went to Panama for our honeymoon, it was wonderful
  • Stopped taking the birth control pill
  • Was told during a divinatory ritual that Dave and I’s first child would be son


  • Together, Dave and I made a wish during an Ostara/Spring Equinox egg painting ritual that we would have a child,  got pregnant with Evan that night.
  • Quit the job I loved in Toronto on a whim to move to Nova Scotia to provide a better place for a child to grow up
  • Struggled financially like crazy trying to get established in Halifax
  • Worked in a job I absolutely hated to make ends meet
  • Dave’s step father Doug died of cancer, went to Toronto to be with his mom and support her through her hardship
  • While in Toronto, found out my cousin Satara, a very close relative was hit and killed by a drunk driver at 14 years old, our family fell apart, we cut our Toronto visit short to get home for her funeral
  • Continued growing with Evan, loved every second on the perfect pregnancy
  • Got robbed on December 10th, the day before my due date with Evan
  • Went into labour with Evan, then found out his heart has stopped beating and delivered his lifeless body after 11 hours of labor on Christmas Eve.


  • Rang in the new year with a couple of friends and Dave’s mom, I was a bitter depressed mess
  • Had Evan’s funeral and felt like my soul was being burried with him
  • Went to Cuba for a week to lay in the sun and heal with Dave
  • Found a job I liked as an Emploment Counsellor with JSS and burried myself in work to forget how miserable I was
  • Started counselling, a support group and anti depressants
  • Lost my Grandmother in April, making it 4 family death in 9 months
  • Bought our first house in July
  • Got a new, higher paying job with the YMCA in September
  • Got our sweet awesome pup Oliver
  • Finished 2008 with Dave cutting off three of his fingers off in an accident at work, full circle misery
  • Went to Manhattan to spend the first Anniversary of Evan’s death alone in a strange place together.
  • Hoped and prayed that 2009 would bring us healing,and that a new house would bring a fresh start.
  • Started trying to conceive for real in December.


  • Continued working at the YMCA
  • Went to a Beltane ritual, jumped over the fertility fire with Dave
  • Got a divinatoy painting done which ended up being a painting of a pregnant women, thought it meant  pregnancy would bless me soon, found out a week later I was already pregnant with Evangeline
  • Overall it was a laid back, non-eventful and calm year, we needed it.
  • Rounded out the year and the 2 year anniversary of Evan’s birth and death by going on maternity leave again, participating in family Christmas celebrations for the first time in 2 years and loving the baby growing in my belly.

Hoping for a wonderful and rewarding 2010, enough stuggling and suffering, we deserve happinness and joy this year.


About mommamaynard

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” — Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on January 1, 2010, in Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. YES u do deserve happiness this year!!!<3

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