Maybe this makes me a snob but…

I just think a women should be somewhat educated about birth, the process, ect..before she actually gives birth. There is a reason pre-natal classes are offered after all. Not just to know her own body, but what is best and safest for her and her babe..Doctors and ultrasound techs even moreso…No?

A birth announcement was just posted in January 2010 baby group and I just couldn’t help shake my head at this one, so
I have to post it in my super filtered group and disect it, I just have to…

At my 36w appt, I asked my doctor for one last u/s just to make sure everything was ok w/the baby although I didnt need it. But Im such a worry wart, I took it anyway. So I went to the u/s Monday & everything was fine until the tech said the baby weighed 5lbs 4oz..Im like, "NOO, at my last appt he weighed 6lbs 4oz." So Tuesday, I had my 37w appt… everything was normal. Gained 2 more lbs which had brought me to 173 I think. I gained 32lbs altogether throughout the pregnancy.Then the doc happened to ask how the u/s went & I told him about my main concern which was the baby’s weight I was given @ the u/s. So he called the hospital & had them fax over the results…10 Mins later, my bf & I come to find out the baby’s amniotic fluid was very low & the baby was stressed. (UMMMM They let her go home without telling her this? Her doctor would not have know if he had not called t request the results??? Really) We were looking @ each other pretty clueless, so in lamens terms the doctor said I had to be induced IMMEDIATELY! The baby was @ term, but he just wasnt growing like he’s supposed to @ this time & If I would have waited another week, the baby would have been considered stillborn.(Considered a stillborn huh? It’s pretty black and white, baby is alive, baby died..and really I think there is a "chance" baby could have passed away, maybe the next day, maybe the next week, I don’t know this whole last line irked the end I am glad her babe is ok, we don’t need anymore stillbirths) 

We left the doctor’s office on the way to the hospital. Called all the fam on the way up there & most of them beat US up there. lol We checked in @ 6:30pm Tuesday. Got into the room changed clothes, etc. Around 8:30 that night, the night doctor came & checked me to see how far I dilated/effaced. I wasnt effaced at all but was dilated @ 1cm…more than likely I was at 1cm for at least a wk/wk & a half. My regular doctor never checked me vaginally so I never knew what to expect. But to have someone stick their fingers in you like they did…NEVER EVER AGAIN. That was the worst pain I ever felt…So the nurses inserted the Cervadil at the time & broke the mucus plus so the process could go fast.(If a baby really had low fluids and was distressed as they say, this was a highly irresponsible approach, the should have done an emergency section and are lucky that baby had enough strenghth to survive and induction from nothing, from 1cm and 0 effaced, that is hard on them) 
I would say around 10:30pm the contractions were going, but I didnt feel them. Plus I was distracted by visitors at the time. 11:30pm, I started to feel them a little bit, but nothing too severe…the contractions were 4-5mins apart then. Around a little after 2am Wednesday, they were coming on HARD & STRONG..Pretty much unbearable. Worse than period cramps, like someone stabbing you in the stomach while rolling over it with a steamroller. So I paged the nurse on staff for some kind of medicine to numb me so I could sleep & to see how far apart they were now. At this time, I was inbetween 3-4cm dilated & 2-3 mins apart. I wasnt fully ready for an epidural yet but I was given something to numb the pain. Come to find out, my cervix was around my baby’s head. (Um ok NO your cervix was not really around that baby’s head at 3-4 cm hun, it takes 10cm for a baby to get out, or at least close to that, I was 3 cm dilated with Evan for weeks walking around)  I finally got an hour & a half nap in when contractions were hitting harder & lasting about a minute or 2, coming every minute sometimes having multiple @ once….This was about 4:30-5:00am hr when that happened. Luckily the bf was there every step of the way & comforting me the best way he could. It was hard for him to be strong b/c he didnt like seeing me cry & in pain. He didnt show it, but I know he broke down on the inside. There was a point in time I wanted to throw something @ him b/c he was sleep on the litle foldout sofa & he was dead to the world sleep while I was having the strongest contractions ever. Im in bed making every noise possible, gripping the arms of the bed trying to wake him up so I could hold his hand while going through one, but nope…he was snoring all loud calling the hogs. If the hospital phone were real close to me @ the time, I would have chucked the phone @ his big ass head. lol It literally took me crying & screaming @ the top of my lungs to wake him up. Im pretty sure the whole LDR floor heard me.

5:30: Nurses & Anesthesiologist come in. Nurse checks me, Im 5cm dilated…it was almost too late for an epidural (Oh ok so 3-4 cm was to early for an epidural, but 5cm was almost to late? Ok so tell me please, when was the ideal time…4.5? Really? Pretty much no one would br getting epidurals then if it was the specific a time window), but they gave me one. The Anesthesiologist got hella irritated w/me bc my contractions kept coming while she was trying to insert the needle in.(If she really did, then she should not be a doctor because really? Like you were having the contractions on purpose just to be difficult right? ) Overall, the process was done. 15 mins later @ 5:45am, my legs instantly go numb & I get very drowsy on the drop of a dime, plus I didnt sleep @ all that night. My Bf asks the nurse how long will it be when the baby comes. The nurse says around 7am if not within the next 15mins.(Your baby with either be born at 7am or else in the next 15 minutes, I know this cause I am super nurse and can predict exaclty how long it will take you to dilate the next 5cm, sncker) Next thing I know the doctors come in check me @ this time…sees that the baby’s head was pretty much in the crowning stage & yell,"The baby’s head is RIGHT THERE! We have to hurry & get him out!" However, my water wasnt broke yet. Broke my water & I instantly shot from 5cm to fully dilated. (Ok…let me get this straight..your waters were not broken, you were 5cm dilated and the baby was crowning?? I am pretty sure NOT..I think you mean the baby was low and very engaged ) I felt the urge to push, so they put on their material & went to work. I was so numb & too tired I actually fell asleep pushing. (WAY to much drugs if you can fall asleep during the pushing..seriously, I had an epidural with Evan and I still could not have asleep during the pushing phase..) My regular doctor was yelling @ me like some kind of football coach to get the baby out. It was funny but I was too tired to laugh. lol

What was making me mad though he was pulling the head out, so yea..I suffered a 2nd degree tear from it. My bf called my mom almost too late b/c the time she came in the room the baby’s head was almost out.  Thank goodness she’s only down the street from the hospital I was at..It was just the bf & my mom in the room other than doctors. FINALLY @ 6:23am, my precious baby boy came Wednesday, January 6th, 2010! A day before my bf’s bday. So that was his bday present from me. If anyone ever asks me what was the best gift I gave my bf for his bday I’ll say A CHILD! lol

What a story huh?! LOL
Here’s pics of my baby, Marco Rashone Tucker Jr. 4lbs 11oz 18in (Wow small baby for 37 weeks, average baby is in the high 5lbs low 6 at this stage…he obviously was a IUGR baby and he is very, very lucky to be here. I am so glad he is, don’t get me wrong I would never wish stillbirth on anyone, but the whole thing irks me with how light hearted it is written, it’s like no one realises how potentially serious this could have been. It just got under my skin and I need to share..:

About mommamaynard

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” — Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on January 10, 2010, in Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 11 Comments.

  1. This poor girl doesn’t sound too smart. Glad her Babes is healthy, but goodness, I hope he doesn’t take any medical advice from his ‘Ma

  2. wowwwwwwww that weirded me out a lot. 5 cm and crowning?? i mean certain parts i can believe (like the anasthesiologist getting irritated by ctx) but some parts just really don’t make sense – she clearly didn’t really understand the process that well at all! “would have been considered stillborn”? and they wouldn’t say her amnio levels were dangerously low sometime before they left and checked it out themselves?? so freaking weird…
    and i wanted to note that i fell asleep pushing! i was in the pushing phase for THREE HOURS after having been awake for 30ish hours after having slept 4 hours the two nights prior. i was in agony and i was pushing, but i also would fall deeply asleep for even like 3 seconds between pushes. my mom and alex said that was totally weird to see – i’d be OUT COLD and then AAAAH PUSHING and then zzzz.

    • I was an extreme example for me, which why I even bothered to post about it. I cannot beleive you fell asleep while pushing…wow. I was in the pushing phase for like 3 hours as well, and had 11 hours of hard labor, I guess there was just to much action going on since I ended up with a forecepts delivery.

      • i don’t remember it AT ALL. i actually wouldn’t believe my mom that it happened if it weren’t for the fact that alex agreed! the next stop for me was episiotomy and then as soon as i heard that my body just let go and she came out. =P i do remember feeling exhausted and unable to support my body, but i don’t remember having short deep bursts of sleep between contractions!

  3. yikes!
    She is so so so lucky that he is ok…just amazing.
    HUGS to you hun!!

  4. Trying not to be judgey, but this woman sounds very young and naive.. Glad her child is okay.

    • I fully agree, she does sound very young and naive, and in all fairness I have no clue how old she’s just so sad that she has like no clue. I am SO glad her child is ok, cause seriously, it sounds like it was such a close call.

  5. those stories irk me too. Most recently someone on my friend list had a c-section and I knew it was going to happen from her first prenatal visit. She is a big worrier and her doctor just looked for pathology.It is so hard to watch. Littlebuhnees experience reminded me just how much of a major operation c-sections are. She had all three to protect herself and her children and she still suffered. Imagine women are choosing the procedure or inductions that often lead to c-sections. I completely understand why you and many other moms in many situations would consider/consent to induction, but it is so different to understand the risks and weigh them against the benefits than your doctor’s golf schedule, inexperience with normal birth, misunderstanding of u/s results, etc, etc.

    • I know..
      It’s like, I am ok with Evan’s death in so far as I was educated on my choice to not be induced because I saw no reason health wise and I was being closely monitered. I just got to be the one who defeated the odd’s sadly.
      Same with being induced this time around, I am not going into it lightly, and I would not just induce, just cause, ya know. Just like I would not choose a section for no good reason, cause like dude, it is major abdominal surgery.

  6. This was a good livejournal. Thanks for sharing.
    I really can’t stand people who don’t take medical things seriously. I’m used to it, because that’s how I grew up, with my mom sick all the time and never taking it seriously. She had fibro mayalgia. The doctors never said she did, I did a lot of research and knew from my research that she did. They put her on drug after drug after drug to cure any random disease they saw fit and no one seemed to care taht I knew it was fibromayalgia. Anyway, long story short… finally 10 years later she gets diagnosed with fibromayalgia (shocking) and laughs about it “Lol you were right all along”.
    I can’t stand that kind of attitude. When you’re doing soemthing that could affect so many major things, like that woman’s baby could have died and she’s acting as if it was nothing, she doesn’t realize waht a big deal it was. Same as my mom, she put her body through 10 years of medication that wasn’t necessary, then just laughed it off once she found out what her disease really was.
    can’t friggin stand it.

    • I hear ya.
      I don’t get people at all. It’s your life and your health and you will be the one living with the consequences while your health care provider is all tucked in cozy at night.

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