Thanks so much everyone

I got so many offers of support from my last post. I have so little spare time to reply, though I want to, so for now I will post this and direct it to everyone.

It’s amazing what a differance 24 hours can make. She is latching every single time now, no fight, props to the community health nurse who came and offered me advice, it worked, the breast compression which force a spray into her mouth right off catching her attention and making her want to keep eating. Because she is latching a whole load of stressors are now gone, no more engorgement, my chest feel’s normal again, no more anxieties that her jaundice will get worse or she won’t regain enough weight by tuesday’s well baby appointment, she is eating alot every 3 hours so now I know she is getting enough nourishment. When she falls asleep at  the breast I see the milk pour out of the corner of her mouth haha and along with the mustard diapers 6-7 times a day, there is no doubt she is getting plenty of milk.

Last night was manageable, sleep 3 hours, up for a one hour feeding, sleep for 3, up for 1 ect…at 7am we went back to sleep and woke up at 11am feeling refreshed, and I managed to grab a shower before her next nursing and it felt great. I think the hormones are evening out, I cried much less today. I did cry on her head when I started thinking about the fact that she, this tiny perfect creature in my arms was the same baby kicking me from inside and then I gave birth to her..crazy. I sang "Your just to good to be true" to her and started bawling.

I NEVER want to put her down, I want her to be in someone’s arms at all times, seriously, it might be neurotic..I have a basinette by my bed for her but she hasen’t slept in it yet cause I wont put her down, she spent the last two nights in my arms. Don’t worry the neurotisism covers all, I make sure there are no blankets anywere near her head and that she is not on her stomach. I petrified of SIDS and so figure if she’s never laid down alone then it can’t happen, but it’s kinda all consuming…I mean don’t get me wrong, I love sleeping with her in my arms, but I am not sure if it’s a good long term solution and if not that should I be getting her into that habit. The public health nurse who was here yesterday said she would safest in the basinette on her back, so I tried to put her in there last night but she kept waking up crying, I think it was to cold her, she is used to being against my body and warm, she sleeps so soundly against my chest and I love her there oh so much, it makes me feel so happy and good that I know she is safe in my arms and I will shield her..What to do?

Anyways, I am happy, it’s been a rollercoaster already, but she is so wonderful and now that nursing is on again, I feel soooo fullfiled and content.

About mommamaynard

β€œLife is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” β€” Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on January 30, 2010, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 11 Comments.

  1. oh i am so glad to hear that the boob stuff is so much better! we didn’t get that fixed till 4ish weeks and it was MISERABLE – my nipples bled that whole time.
    i didn’t put maya down either, but it wasn’t a bad habit, don’t worry. i was super anal about it for the first 3 months but as time went on and i calmed down a bit, it got easier, and once she was at the age where it really would get to be a bad habit, i was already able to cut things back. enjoy this time as much as you can, while you can sleep with her in your arms. maya slept on me, tummy to tummy, for the first several weeks because i could feel her breathe and feel reassured enough to stay asleep myself, and she just slept so cozily.
    i remember the rollercoaster well. you are doing a fantastic job, mama! look at you with your darling baby girl in your arms, just as you’ve imagined and dreamed and hoped and yearned for all this time. and yes, sometimes it is so hard and sometimes you are just figuring out how the heck to get through the day, but through it all remember that you’re doing it, you’re getting through it, you’re doing a great job, and so many people are so proud of you and sending you so much love.

  2. Hi there, so great that you’re doing so much better. But make sure you are getting your rest, even if it means allowing her to be down sometimes, because lack of sleep is a very nasty thing. She can lie next to you, if you’re fine with not having a blanket or pillow, that’s perfectly safe in my unprofessional opinion… but don’t exhaust yourself, you’re in it for the long run πŸ™‚ and gotta keep yourself nourished.
    hugs to all three of you.

  3. So happy!!!!! Glad she’s ‘got it’ (and also likely you’re just out of one of the many growth spurts that are gonna start. says: Common times for growth spurts are during the first few days at home and around 7-10 days, 2-3 weeks, 4-6 weeks, 3 months, 4 months, 6 months and 9 months (more or less). Babies don’t read calendars, however, so your baby may do things differently.

  4. I wasn’t sure if you were swaddling her from your post or not, but that really helps when you lay them down to sleep in a bassinet.
    Also- this is going to sound crazy but it worked with Rachel. We laid her in her carseat for the first 2 weeks because it wrapped around her more snugly than her bassinet. She looked cramped but she seemed to love it and slept a lot better in it.
    I’m sooooo glad the bfing is coming along so well!!! That is awesome and I’m sure it is such a relief as well. Sweet!
    Ahhh…baby blues. I had them kind of badly with Rachel but not so much with Tanner. It is just one of those things. I would let it ride for a couple weeks or so to let the natural hormones do their thing. If it persists though- def. talk to a dr about it. There are drugs you can take if needed while bfing.

  5. YAY for 24 hours! I’m so glad that things are turning around! I’m a happy co-sleeper too… none of my 3 ever slept in cribs. I did it mainly because I’m lazy (easier to breastfeed) but also just because it felt “right”. Follow your instinct on this one… I don’t think it will lead you wrong. You probably don’t have much time for reading blogs, but I love this one… tons of well-researched articles on co-sleeping.

  6. *tears if joy* she gets it!!! Life is good!
    I think it must be all the fruit and chocolate!! Haha πŸ™‚

  7. I’m spacing out on the titles of books that have clear study results that say that co-sleeping is SAFER than not, if done correctly of course, but they are out there and trust me, co-sleeping is the way to go! I’ve read at least three books that have real studies. What do the fear-mongering things have? Skewed statistics. If you look at the actual numbers, the babies that died co-sleeping died because they weren’t being co-slept correctly – the parent just happened to fall asleep next to them, usually somewhere unsafe, and always in the wrong conditions. It’s not the norm. Actual SIDS, as in, we don’t know why it happened, is when the baby is alone and their heart just stops. Smothering does NOT equal SIDS, and well, I guess you can see that this is a pet peeve of mine. You know how to sleep with Evangeline without smothering her, and what’s more, you will feel her every tiny body movement. I think I already told you about how many times I saved Zinnia’s life when she was a small baby. She was a major spit-upper, not reflux, just a ton of spit-up, and at night she would often gag silently and convulse because she was unable to even roll at all. I’d wake up instantly, put her in an upright position, and pat her back, and voila – an alive baby! She’d gasp in air, and it was obvious she hadn’t been able to breathe at all, she would cry in rage and fear afterward. It’s scary, if she hadn’t been so close, there’s no way she would have woken me up.
    Well, yeah, this is one of my many mom-related pet peeves. So many people are so misinformed about the reality of co-sleeping.

  8. noah is right next to me with the booby in his mouth most of the night, hes almost 7 months old too. heh

  9. i agree. while mairi slept in a crib/bassinette b/c i was so sick, eli hasn’t ever slept anywhere but with or on one of us. bad habits bad schmabits is what i think πŸ˜‰ i don’t know any 18 year old that cosleep and can only fall asleep on someone, so it won’t ruin them for life πŸ˜€
    and sids happens LESS when cosleeping b/c (the theory is) your body temp regulates the baby’s, and it helps with breathing and not having apnea etc that causes sids. ❀

  10. YAY!! I’m so happy Evangeline has gotten her act together with the nursing πŸ˜‰ Now you can really relax and enjoy πŸ™‚
    But seriously, this all sounds so normal (and familiar!). You are doing such a great job. Just keep trusting your instincts. You can’t spoil a baby – co-sleeping/bedsharing makes nursing easier, more sleep is had by everyone, and everyone feels warmer, safer, and happier πŸ™‚ I say go for it. Sofia never slept in her bassinet or crib, ever. Always in someone’s arms πŸ™‚
    ❀ ❀ ❀

  11. They make these swaddler things that stay shut with velcro that I used with both my kids, and I swear they were magic. My little ones always slept better when wrapped in them. Of course it’s okay to hold her when she sleeps, but don’t forget to get some rest yourself. πŸ™‚
    I’m so glad to hear that nursing is going better for the both of you. I know it can be frustrating and nerve-wracking (not to mention painful!) in the beginning. She’ll be filling out those newborn clothes in no time!
    Oh, also, I cracked up at the “poop explosion” mention in your last post. We used to call them “poop-splosions”. Hee.

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