Fussy days.

The baby is either sleeping, nursing or crying today..these are the three options. I don’t know if it’s another growth spurt or what is going on but she is soooo fussy. I am exausted, as I didn’t get my nap today and so her cries are really really upsetting me, thank goodness for wonderful husbands who take calm the baby shifts. She is easy to calm, but then her brain catches up and realises we have managed to calm her and she get’s angry again.

She want’s to suck and suck and suck, but keep’s spitting the breast out, will not take a pacifier, and get’s frustrated cause her motor skills are not advanced enough yet that she can purposely keep her fist in her mouth.

When I am nursing and when she is sleeping, I look at her with love and admiration and a full heart, but being this exausted and having her so fussy is hard on the nerves. Makes me wanna cry. Thank goodness we have had many many more good days, so I know this to shall pass.

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“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” — Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on February 11, 2010, in Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 20 Comments.

  1. Yes, it is hard on the patience… but believe me, it will get better. I’ve been there. I remember wanting to chew my leg off. That’s a very clear memory, definitely. I wanted to take my leg, put it in my mouth and chew it off. But it passed. You are not alone.

    • Thank you. I really find myself wondering if she is normal in terms of fussiness, pretty sure she is, but it’s nice to hear other’s have survived the same and still consider having more kids haha.

      • Oh definitely. Definitely normal. And her being fussy now doesn’t mean anything about what she’s going to be in the future! Daniel was soooo difficult when he was a baby, and now he’s so easy going!

  2. Yeah we had a horrible night last night. The fussing started later (at 11:30) and went on until 4. I made the mistake of not going to bed until 11. =( I think I got maybe 2 hours last night
    Finally hubby swaddled him tight and put him in the swing otherwise I would have gotten no sleep. He cried for about 5 min and then settled.
    He likes to suck and suck too, so I’ve been giving him a blankie with the silky edges and he sucks on that. That’s what I did with my older son too because he would not take a pacifier

    • Oy! ok you win, that is even worse then mine, she still slept in there, I just got 2 hour spurts max. We so need a swing, it’s one of the last things I actually need, she will love it..she loves it when Dad swings her in her carseat. Swaddeling is the only way I can get this one back into her basinette after a 3am feeding, she hates going from my warm close arms to a cool big ol basinette, so I have to make sure she is swaddled for the feeding in order to get her back in to sleep. Hmm the blanket thing may just work..right now she like Dad’s finger and her fist, when she can get her fist to her mouth. Tried to give her a paci again last night, one of the probreastfeeding ones, she just gags on it..she dosen’t get it.

  3. (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugehugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  4. that does sound like a fussy day!

    • Yup. It’s hard to admit when you feel in over your head..cause you know, all we wanted was a baby, and I do, and I adore her and am so greatful, but ya, parenting a tiny newborn who can’t tell you what they need to feel better is whoah overwhelming.

      • Yup. I have BTDT. And it sucks. And most of my parenting “career” has felt like this, on and off. Overwhelming beyond measure. Sure, patterns do eventually emerge, and Remy is NOT a typical kid (far from it) but it’s been difficult, to say the least.
        For most people, the overwhelm gets a LOT easier after 3-4 months (as in, may resolve completely).
        Even with a kid on the spectrum, it’s worth it for the love and the joy of him. It really, really is. (But oh my gosh, if I could do it again without the overwhelm, I would…)

      • Thanks sooo much for recognizing that..I so don’t want to sound like an ungreatful douchebag ya know. I am so torn. I was just bawling about this very thing this morning, being all crazy new mom,crying cause I want to love every second and feel terrible to not loving the fussy times, or for thinking about myself when I have thought about myself my whole life and now it’s time to be a mom.

  5. Fussy days.
    try eliminating all dairy from your diet for a week and see if that helps. Its really common for breastfed babies to be intolerant of dairy til their digestive tract matures

  6. When Zinnia did that as a little baby, I found it was because she was so gassy that (I’m assuming) she thought the boob could make her tummy feel better.
    When you have oversupply (I did), she takes in air while nursing to try to stop the flow from coming so fast at her, and that gives her gas and frothy poops. I think you said she had frothy poops a few days ago? Do you have a pump? Pumping for a minute before nursing might help, but it sounds like a lot of work.
    Keep up the burping and the bouncing! Yay for Dave being there to take shifts!

    • I am really thinking this might be the issue. I do have pumps, I just didn’t want to triger even more supply, so they say pump as a last resort. It’s weird cause my breasts don’t get engorged between feedings..

      • i thought lucass problem at first was oversupply too. Dont pump though thatll make it worse. Try block feeding her. If its oversupply, that will help.

      • See I have been doing block feeding for a week or so now, to make sure she is getting enough hindmilk, cause I saw on the LLL website that that could cause foamy poops. (They are not foamy in her diaper, just bubly and foamy comming out) so I started doing just one breast per feeding..haven’t noticed if the poop is any differant, but she is still mega gassy..but see block feeding dosen’t mean she won’t get to fast a letdown at the next nursing, cause the other breast is just as full waiting for her. I guess it’s a process of elimination. If I pump just a bit and then feed her, and she get’s better, then I know it was oversupply and figure out how best to change that (possitions ect..)if it dosen’t, then I know it’s not my forceful letdown so I can try dairy ellimination. I guess that is the best I can do.

  7. It will pass hun.Believe me, it will. I had many moments of fussy babies and wanting to pull my hair out but you get through it.Thank goodness for husbands.Jeff was amazing with Elaina. I managed to get some sleep.Sleep when you can.You will get it down soon. It will take a bit but you’ll get her sleeping patterns and fussy time all worked out.

  8. your or dave’s pinkie in her mouth can work for the need to suck. nail on the tongue side.

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