Parenting

Wow. Evangeline straight up cried from 9pm to 1:30am longest ever and the only thing that would soothe her was rocking. Dave and I took turns rocking her for hours. At 1:30am I literally fell asleep rocking her in bed. After that she awoke every 3 hours to eat, so no long stretch for me last night. I guess to make up for the 6 hours straight she slept the night before.
We have tried everything and really thought things were much better, getting decent sleep with a moody but less so baby. Last night threw any progress we had made to the wind. Dave and I had our second big fight about parenting and he slept on the couch (he had to work this morning and the baby ensured he got no sleep at all, he works with powertools for a living). We have done everything we can imagine to help her and it just seems that she is cranky at night and gets so worked up she misses her bedtime and won’t sleep despite yawning and giving us tons of other sleepy cues. I won’t list now all the thinks we have tried cause it’s long but she has been this way since 2 weeks, so 5.5 weeks of hard nights of varying intensity. Some nights are doable but nights like last really really wear on your nerves. I have to rock her to sleep every night (only at night) and then we now co-sleep which seemed to improve things drasticly until now. Last night Dave really really wanted to let her cry it out a la carseat (she cries everytime were in the car, but there is nothing I can do, she needs to be in there for safety so she cries but always manages to fall asleep) but in my opinnion she wakes up in a way worse mood then when she is soothed to sleep. It’s so hard. So he slept on the sofa and I soothed her til I litterlly passed out.

I have a list of things to go over with my Dr. At her well baby next week cause I am having a rough time emotionally. I waited to be a mommy for so long and I love her so deeply it kills me that she is so unhappy. She hates everything except the breast it seems and sometimes some bright toys. Everything else is upsetting. The car seat, the cold, the wind, the sun, too much noise, too little noise, taking to long to feed her, being tiered….the list goes on. I hear other mom’s saying their baby is smiling lots and even giggling at this age 7.5 weeks but we only get indirect smiles so I can’t tell if their on purpose, and grins at my boob and that she stops crying when I hold her. My mom instincts still tell me this is nothing medical, that she is just a highly sensitive child having a rough go adapting to this new world and it’s just time til she desensitizes a bit and can start to enjoy it. In the meantime it’s so hard, I cry lots cause I really want to be enjoying this time instead of counting down the days to month 4. Public health nurses and doctors all seem to think this is normal in the first 3 months and they are the hardest for parents and she will outgrow this. They even gave me documents that show that most babies will cry the same amount in the first 3 months of their life as they will in the next 9 combined. Crazy. She is cute and snuggly and I waited so long and I am so grateful she is here but I am really struggling emotionally while dealing with her rough nighttime episodes.
Have to try and get nap in now.

Posted via LiveJournal.app.

Advertisements

About mommamaynard

β€œLife is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” β€” Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on March 18, 2010, in Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. 34 Comments.

  1. *hugs* hang in there. 3 months is right around the corner. In the meantime, have a glass of wine to help get through the fussy period. I know how the crying can just grate on the mommy’s nerves and heart. I have done this and it is allowed w/ bf.
    I think you might have a sensory sensitive child and your insticts are right. It will get better. keep doing what you’re doing hon.

  2. *hugs* hang in there. 3 months is right around the corner. In the meantime, have a glass of wine to help get through the fussy period. I know how the crying can just grate on the mommy’s nerves and heart. I have done this and it is allowed w/ bf.
    I think you might have a sensory sensitive child and your insticts are right. It will get better. keep doing what you’re doing hon.

  3. It blows having a sensitive baby. Many babies do outgrow this phase (unfortunately, Remy didn’t really, although it got way better). Crying it out is WORSE for sensitive kids. Um, I might be able to find you some online links that might help Dave realize that, but books would probably be better. (Just leave ’em in the bathroom. Don’t even tell him to read them, just leave him where he’s gonna pick them up.) Dr Sears wrote a book on high needs kids (he has one). The Sensitive Child is good. As is Raising Your Spirited Child.

    The not smiling at faces is a bit of a red flag. For SURE bring that up with your pedi and keep an eye on it. (Every kid develops at a different pace.)

    Honestly, I absolutely hated babyhood. Hated it. Don’t feel guilty, just be where you are. Kids get much more interesting (and way less needy) as they grow up and being a baby person isn’t all that important, in the long run.

    If you need any more support, let me know. I am here for you.

  4. It blows having a sensitive baby. Many babies do outgrow this phase (unfortunately, Remy didn’t really, although it got way better). Crying it out is WORSE for sensitive kids. Um, I might be able to find you some online links that might help Dave realize that, but books would probably be better. (Just leave ’em in the bathroom. Don’t even tell him to read them, just leave him where he’s gonna pick them up.) Dr Sears wrote a book on high needs kids (he has one). The Sensitive Child is good. As is Raising Your Spirited Child.
    The not smiling at faces is a bit of a red flag. For SURE bring that up with your pedi and keep an eye on it. (Every kid develops at a different pace.)
    Honestly, I absolutely hated babyhood. Hated it. Don’t feel guilty, just be where you are. Kids get much more interesting (and way less needy) as they grow up and being a baby person isn’t all that important, in the long run.
    If you need any more support, let me know. I am here for you.

    • Parenting
      just wanted to say that lucas didnt really smile til 8 weeks and now a lot til about ten

      • Re: Parenting
        THANK YOU πŸ™‚
        she does smile lots just at people directly, I just can’t wait to have her smile at me instead of my boob πŸ™‚

      • Re: Parenting

        THANK YOU πŸ™‚
        she does smile lots just at people directly, I just can’t wait to have her smile at me instead of my boob πŸ™‚

      • Re: Parenting
        Right πŸ™‚ Its persistant delay that’s the key. (And oddly, given that my son is ASD, he’s been smiling since he was in utero. And at faces since earlier than most bebes. So, it’s not a given, either way. And some of the not smiling thing/ smiling a lot thibg is “just” personality. My husband and I were both very smiley babies.)

      • Re: Parenting
        I agree. I wouldn’t even start worrying about it at 8-9 weeks though. Not at all. Its still in the range of normal for her to not be smiling at people. My oldest has pdd-nos and was a VERY smiley baby as well

      • Re: Parenting
        It’s been awhile since I looked at those early milestones, so you’ve got me there πŸ™‚
        And what are the odds, mama, that’s crazy! (We haven’t gotten a specific ASD diagnosis, but PDD-NOS might end up being it. He had a stroke in utero/ early on and it’s affecting his language delay more so/ unusually so for an ASD kid. So, until that brain plasticity issue is resolved we’re just not sure where he’ll end up.)

      • Parenting
        we are having trouble getting a diagnois as well. He does so well that everyone is hesitant to give him a diagnosis because hes so young. We’ve had him evaluated three times. Everyone keeps telling us to bring him back in 6 months. Thankfully hes in a ton of therapy already for his developmental delays.

      • Parenting

        we are having trouble getting a diagnois as well. He does so well that everyone is hesitant to give him a diagnosis because hes so young. We’ve had him evaluated three times. Everyone keeps telling us to bring him back in 6 months. Thankfully hes in a ton of therapy already for his developmental delays.

      • Re: Parenting

        It’s been awhile since I looked at those early milestones, so you’ve got me there πŸ™‚

        And what are the odds, mama, that’s crazy! (We haven’t gotten a specific ASD diagnosis, but PDD-NOS might end up being it. He had a stroke in utero/ early on and it’s affecting his language delay more so/ unusually so for an ASD kid. So, until that brain plasticity issue is resolved we’re just not sure where he’ll end up.)

      • Re: Parenting
        thanks for the reinforcement I REALLY appreciate you saying…so tiered of unnecessary worry. You when us stillbirth moms were oh so very stressed the whole pregnancy I just want to enjoy her being here safe in my arms.

      • Re: Parenting

        thanks for the reinforcement I REALLY appreciate you saying…so tiered of unnecessary worry. You when us stillbirth moms were oh so very stressed the whole pregnancy I just want to enjoy her being here safe in my arms.

      • Re: Parenting

        I agree. I wouldn’t even start worrying about it at 8-9 weeks though. Not at all. Its still in the range of normal for her to not be smiling at people. My oldest has pdd-nos and was a VERY smiley baby as well

      • Re: Parenting
        and I just realized your son is 3 days younger than my oldest. Nifty.

      • Re: Parenting

        and I just realized your son is 3 days younger than my oldest. Nifty.

      • Re: Parenting

        Right πŸ™‚ Its persistant delay that’s the key. (And oddly, given that my son is ASD, he’s been smiling since he was in utero. And at faces since earlier than most bebes. So, it’s not a given, either way. And some of the not smiling thing/ smiling a lot thibg is “just” personality. My husband and I were both very smiley babies.)

    • Parenting

      just wanted to say that lucas didnt really smile til 8 weeks and now a lot til about ten

    • thanks Lex.
      I want to read those books for sure I am going to check the library.

    • thanks Lex.
      I want to read those books for sure I am going to check the library.

  5. I’m sorry it’s so rough for you right now! I’ve got a friend with a baby just a bit older than yours and they are running into the same issues. I’ve got no advice at all, other than junk I’ve heard, which is pretty much “they grow out of it eventually”. Yeah, makes you feel great, right? 😦

  6. I’m sorry it’s so rough for you right now! I’ve got a friend with a baby just a bit older than yours and they are running into the same issues. I’ve got no advice at all, other than junk I’ve heard, which is pretty much “they grow out of it eventually”. Yeah, makes you feel great, right? 😦

  7. Did u try eliminating things from your diet? ALL dairy helped lucas a lot. When breastfed babies are so colicy, a lot of the time it has to do with a intolerance in your diet.

  8. Did u try eliminating things from your diet? ALL dairy helped lucas a lot. When breastfed babies are so colicy, a lot of the time it has to do with a intolerance in your diet.

    • I did try elimination and sadly it didn’t show any difference, I don’t think it’s systemic I really think it’s nervous. Thanks for the support.

    • I did try elimination and sadly it didn’t show any difference, I don’t think it’s systemic I really think it’s nervous. Thanks for the support.

  9. hey hun. Hang in there. I know the feeling! It DOES get better. Lucas JUST started getting better now that he can play with stuff and entertain himself a little. I have noo advice about the younger ages but hang in there. It will get better. I TOTALLY understand though. I am here if you need to talk.

  10. hey hun. Hang in there. I know the feeling! It DOES get better. Lucas JUST started getting better now that he can play with stuff and entertain himself a little. I have noo advice about the younger ages but hang in there. It will get better. I TOTALLY understand though. I am here if you need to talk.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Gluten Free Girl

Food-Stories-Recipes-Love

%d bloggers like this: