Baby cries

I felt so much better after meeting with and chatting with my old midwife the yesterday. She thought E. Looked wonderful and assured me that E. Is a normal healthy baby despite the nightime crying. She told me she hears this all the time, that parents often call it the witching hour and that babies cry in the evening more for some reason. She told Dave that once we have tried everything and she is full and changed and just won’t settle that he is not wrong to just let her cry whilst rocking her in his arms. That she will not be damaged for life and she will know he is holding her and loving her. That sometimes babies just need to cry to get nervous energy out but should just not be left alone in bed to cry it out. Just tell them you love them and hold them close and let them cry.

I keep saying he and Dave because I just don’t have the ability to let her cry, even in my arms, even if everything I am doing seems to only be postponing the inevitable.

Tonight for instance, as per usual at 8 o’clock she started being grumpy and it slowly progressed into full on crying. I wore her around the house til she calmed and went to sleep. Fast asleep and happy I tried to transfer her to bed but she woke up as per usual so I lay in bed with her in a dimly lit root and nursed her for an hour. I started to nod off exausted from last nights cry fest. I awoke to the sound of a baby screatching at me, furious that my breast had fallen out of her mouth. I had spent nearly 3 hours calming a fussy baby trying to keep her from screaming as she does and I was exausted. Dave took her and said he would get her to sleep so he is now rocking her in the other room and she is crying and crying snd crying and he is talking to her and reassuring her all is fine. I know she is fine and safe and loved but I can’t handle those cries. I feel so helpless because I know I litterally have tried EVERYTHING,seriously, in the past month to help prevent these evenings, nothing helps, it only postpones the inevitable and she cries like this anyways. It’s something she is just going to outgrow. In the meantime I am just hoping to get through with my sanity intact. Your babies cries are the most horrible sound in the world. When they say fussiness peaks at weeks 6-8 they weren’t kidding every single night for the past 5 nights have been the worst nights yet. I pray it’s downhill from here. She is an angel all day long so what the hell is it with dusk that makes my baby cry like she’s being abandoned or seriously injured despite everything being perfectly fine. Not a question, more of a statment. I just need to vent I am gonna stick to my doctor and midwife and intuition for advice on this one cause I am feeling so overwhelmed with info right now.

Seriously that sound makes me want to knock myself unconscious whilst Dave handles it so I don’t go insane sitting back helpless.

Please let her outgrow this sooner then later. Please let her notbe damaged emotionally from all this crying, I kiss her like a million and a half times a day and tell her he much I love her. I hope she knows it and that it will outweigh the tears.

My sweet child. I so wish I knew how to make things perfect for you. All I can do is keep you fed, loved, safe and clean and I do that well.

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β€œLife is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” β€” Albert Einstein. When it feels like your world has been shattered, and you have reached rock bottom, you must make a choice: Stay where you are and fade away, or keep moving forward. Thankfully I chose to move forward and was blessed with the two most wonderful children after the death of my first in early labor. Things are looking up.

Posted on March 22, 2010, in Uncategorized and tagged . Bookmark the permalink. 38 Comments.

  1. ****hugs****

    I hope that this stage is over soon too! Noah did it too, he’d like to cry for almost 2 hrs for no reason.. I hated it.

  2. ****hugs****
    I hope that this stage is over soon too! Noah did it too, he’d like to cry for almost 2 hrs for no reason.. I hated it.

  3. Sometimes babies just cry. I was colicky and fussy and allergic to milk, so I spent the first few months of my life crying all the time. I am fine.

    You just have to trust in the fact that there is only so much in your own control. Her crying is not your fault – she is a unique person with emotions and feelings and sometimes she’s just pissed off.

    Perhaps when she is crying and Dave is soothing, you could go lie down with your ipod and try and rest. Just try and remind yourself that she is safe with her daddy, and that it is okay to take time to rest. You’ll feel much better when you’re rested enough, and your emotions are in check – instead of frazzled and highly emotional. I know this is a really hard concept, because no mother wants to hear her child cry, but it is important for you to take care of yourself so you can be strong for her.

    I would offer the same advice to Dave. You are partners, and supporting each other is important. You seem to be doing that very well.

  4. Sometimes babies just cry. I was colicky and fussy and allergic to milk, so I spent the first few months of my life crying all the time. I am fine.
    You just have to trust in the fact that there is only so much in your own control. Her crying is not your fault – she is a unique person with emotions and feelings and sometimes she’s just pissed off.
    Perhaps when she is crying and Dave is soothing, you could go lie down with your ipod and try and rest. Just try and remind yourself that she is safe with her daddy, and that it is okay to take time to rest. You’ll feel much better when you’re rested enough, and your emotions are in check – instead of frazzled and highly emotional. I know this is a really hard concept, because no mother wants to hear her child cry, but it is important for you to take care of yourself so you can be strong for her.
    I would offer the same advice to Dave. You are partners, and supporting each other is important. You seem to be doing that very well.

  5. It is VERY HARD for a mother to hear her baby cry. My mom could hold mine when they stressed out and they would, right then, go to sleep and act like everything was fine. My mom told me “YOU need to stop stressing over it. YOU need to be relaxed. Even if that means to put her down for a couple of minutes and you going out of the room and breathing deep for a bit. A baby can pick up your stress and emotions. Think good thoughts when you hold your baby, think of the mountains, ocean, something else.” It took me about a week to be able to do that, but it did work. It was the best advice I ever got.

  6. It is VERY HARD for a mother to hear her baby cry. My mom could hold mine when they stressed out and they would, right then, go to sleep and act like everything was fine. My mom told me “YOU need to stop stressing over it. YOU need to be relaxed. Even if that means to put her down for a couple of minutes and you going out of the room and breathing deep for a bit. A baby can pick up your stress and emotions. Think good thoughts when you hold your baby, think of the mountains, ocean, something else.” It took me about a week to be able to do that, but it did work. It was the best advice I ever got.

  7. dont feel bad or guilty. you’re a great momma. i think we all go through it. it’s so hard to listen to your baby scream and be powerless to stop it.
    im the same way with Lily’s cries. AUGH I HATE IT. my blood pressure goes up, i start to feel panicky, and just augh.

  8. dont feel bad or guilty. you’re a great momma. i think we all go through it. it’s so hard to listen to your baby scream and be powerless to stop it.
    im the same way with Lily’s cries. AUGH I HATE IT. my blood pressure goes up, i start to feel panicky, and just augh.

  9. I had such a hard time listening to Rachel cry as well. Esp. when she went through her collic period. I had to leave the house a few times because I just couldn’t take it- I felt so helpless. It was horrible. I’m glad you got some reassurance from your midwife and that Dave is being such a great help. Hang in there momma!

  10. I had such a hard time listening to Rachel cry as well. Esp. when she went through her collic period. I had to leave the house a few times because I just couldn’t take it- I felt so helpless. It was horrible. I’m glad you got some reassurance from your midwife and that Dave is being such a great help. Hang in there momma!

  11. Becca would cry and cry like that too. What made it harder was that she would actually get worse when I was trying to soothe her. I know it isn’t much consolation now, but it is a phase and will pass eventually. You’ll notice she’ll go through mommy only phases and daddy only phases. Each one has its challenges. She won’t be emotionally scarred and I’m sure she knows you love her. *hugs* You are doing great.

  12. Becca would cry and cry like that too. What made it harder was that she would actually get worse when I was trying to soothe her. I know it isn’t much consolation now, but it is a phase and will pass eventually. You’ll notice she’ll go through mommy only phases and daddy only phases. Each one has its challenges. She won’t be emotionally scarred and I’m sure she knows you love her. *hugs* You are doing great.

    • Oh my, yes sometimes E. get’s worse while you try to help her, it’s only time that will stop her from screaming.
      I can’t wait for this ‘phase’ to pass.

    • Oh my, yes sometimes E. get’s worse while you try to help her, it’s only time that will stop her from screaming.
      I can’t wait for this ‘phase’ to pass.

  13. Baby cries

    your doing great momma. hang in there. go for a short walk or sit outside for a few minutes if you need to. baby cries are horrrrrible when they go on forever like that. hugssss

  14. Baby cries
    your doing great momma. hang in there. go for a short walk or sit outside for a few minutes if you need to. baby cries are horrrrrible when they go on forever like that. hugssss

  15. *big hugs* I have to let DH deal with the witching hour cries…it just hurts me too much. Although currently we are dealing with RSV and I think I’d take the fussiness over the recent anxiety I have been experiencing from the unnatural sleepiness….I’m just hoping he gets well. Now I want him to cry because it’ll mean he’s feeling better 😦 so scared..

  16. *big hugs* I have to let DH deal with the witching hour cries…it just hurts me too much. Although currently we are dealing with RSV and I think I’d take the fussiness over the recent anxiety I have been experiencing from the unnatural sleepiness….I’m just hoping he gets well. Now I want him to cry because it’ll mean he’s feeling better 😦 so scared..

    • Baby cries
      hey just wanted to say my lil guy just got over rsv. it was sooooo scary. it lasted forever. days 3-5 are the worse. good luck! hope ur lil one feels better soon

      • Re: Baby cries
        thanks. he started slight cough on thurs…I’m hoping we are on the mend 😦 Breathing still OK but will only sleep on us propped up. dr said the fact that he is 2 months old already will help.

      • Baby cries
        my lil guy got it at three months. he was bad though and on breathing treatments every 4 hrs. hes 5 months now and on them as needed still. Hope your baby doesnt get hit as bad!

      • Baby cries

        my lil guy got it at three months. he was bad though and on breathing treatments every 4 hrs. hes 5 months now and on them as needed still. Hope your baby doesnt get hit as bad!

      • Re: Baby cries

        thanks. he started slight cough on thurs…I’m hoping we are on the mend 😦 Breathing still OK but will only sleep on us propped up. dr said the fact that he is 2 months old already will help.

    • Baby cries

      hey just wanted to say my lil guy just got over rsv. it was sooooo scary. it lasted forever. days 3-5 are the worse. good luck! hope ur lil one feels better soon

    • Oh god, horrible, so sorry mama. I know how scared shitless I would be….So sorry.

    • Oh god, horrible, so sorry mama. I know how scared shitless I would be….So sorry.

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