I try not blog re: hubby frustrations cause he is a good partner. Sometimes though I just have to dump.
Mean things said last night…
Evangeline was fussing while I left her with Dave to get showered, it was obvious to me she was pissed because she didn’t want to sit and watch TV, I said she is bored, take her outside on the deck…So he did and it worked. After my shower I went outside to join them and bring my diapers in off the line, he asked if I could take the baby back so he could finish his movie. I said
‘It’s hard on me that I can’t leave her with you for more then 10 minutes without a meltdown."
His response: "You made her that way"…
Felt like a punch to the gut. I made her attached to me? I am the only one home with her all day, I am the only one with breasts, she associates me with comfort..not because I am fostering unhealthy dependence in her. I said he should join my mother in the anti-how I am raising my kid parade, the two of them can promote crying it out and bottle feeding together then. No…well then suck it up, this is who she is, I did not make her this way.
He did apologize after the fact but I was still so hurt. If he want’s his child to be more comfortable around him, he needs to turn off the TV and take her for long walks and talk to her about trees and leaves and cars, he needs to hold her more not in front of the TV. Sorry to say but it’s true, even on his days off she is with me all day unless I ask him to hold her. I don’t mind, cause I know he works physically hard and just wants his feet up but don’t blame me when she is more attached to me. She is 5 months old and can’t be expected to sit in front of a TV all day.