What not to say to a grieving mother
This post was inspired by Heather Spohr’s most recent post over at The Spohr’s are Multiplying.
As a bit of background Heather and her husband Mike lost their first daughter Madeline (also called Maddie) just about 2 years ago at 15 months old due to respiratory issues she had had since birth. Madeline was born 10 weeks premature and had scarred lungs as a result, but managed to fight back and live a happy and full life until her tragic death in April 2009. Heather and Mike have since welcomed a second daughter in their lives, Annabel, who is the apple of their eye. However, of course, Heather and Mike still fight with their grief everyday, watching their little girl grow up whilst remembering Maddie and everything she would be doing right now. Heather wrote an entry today as a result of comments and emails she has been receiving about her sad Maddy posts, people who likely mean well worry she should ‘move on’ or ‘get past’ her daughters death for the sake of her new child. Sigh. If only it were that easy.
So loss mama’s, speak up here. Did having another child help you to magically be ok with the loss of their sibling? Do you think their siblings are negatively impacted by the random grief attacks loss mama’s stumble through?
Here is your chance to get your own two cents in.